Being pregnant at work can be exhausting. My support network is both insightful and hilarious – advising me to “follow the koala”. I share their great advice and my experience with a particularly nosy post office customer.
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A client recently reached out to tell me she was “in a pickle.” She’d gotten a job offer with a salary that was 43% more than she’d made in her last position and she felt torn about whether or not to negotiate for more. She texted me, “My gut says NEGOTIATE and make Lelia proud, but my head says the salary is awesome and appropriate.”
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Can a 22-year-old authentically consent to a sexual and romantic relationship with a boss who wields power over her career and is decades her senior? Monica Lewinsky used to think so, but now she isn't sure. I'm not either.
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Want to give and get great feedback? Start with this one question.
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Following #metoo, there's far more pressure on women to be vocal about their experiences of harassment. The repercussions for women who do come forward is a topic that's largely been missing from the conversation.
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Since New Year’s resolutions so often fade and fizzle, consider taking a longer view in order to create the life you want to lead.
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In an effort to get taken seriously as a young female CEO, Eileen Carey dyed her blonde hair brown, switched to more androgynous clothing and ditched contacts for thick-frame glasses.
While Carey’s change in appearance was dramatic, aspects of her story echo the decisions of women across sectors and other demographics.
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Here’s how to respond when someone says, “There’s nothing more I can do,” or “This conversation is over,” but you’re not ready to throw in the towel.
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Here are three great workarounds to avoid triggering the gender bias while celebrating and acknowledging your accomplishments.
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We’re taught to prioritize salary negotiations, but often overlook negotiating aspects of our work that will have a greater impact day-to-day.
I asked a group of clients and friends about the benefits and perks they valued most.
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In that moment when you finally get the job offer, it can be tempting to cheer, “Yessssss! When can I start?” No matter how much you’re jumping up and down or ready to launch the confetti, resist the urge to say yes to the offer right away.
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Wielded effectively, gender stereotypes can work to your advantage.
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Sasha knew how the salary history question can perpetuate the wage gap. She also recognized that if she disclosed her current salary, she’d be at a particularly large disadvantage. Here’s how she responded the question.
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When the news came out that I was going to receive an award, a friend sent me the following text, “I’m simultaneously so proud and also seething with jealousy. Congrats!!” Other friends said versions of the same.
Since there was such curiosity about how this and other awards came about, I’m sharing my approach to self-promotion here.
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A client recently reached out to tell me she was “in a pickle.” She’d gotten a job offer with a salary that was 43% more than she’d made in her last position and she felt torn about whether or not to negotiate for more. Here’s what she did.
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How much time do you spend writing and rewriting difficult emails? If you’re like me, it’s quite a bit.
For the situations I find myself in often, I’ve developed simple email templates to make the process painless. Here are two favorites:
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Know that needling feeling at the back of your mind that you’re a fake, your success was good luck or an accident, and soon (maybe today!) everyone will discover your secret? Impostor syndrome is all too common among high-achieving women.
Actress Jodie Foster summed it up nicely, “When I won the Oscar, I thought it was a fluke. I thought everybody would find out, and they’d take it back. They’d come to my house, knocking on the door, ‘Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone else. That was going to Meryl Streep.’“
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In negotiation, we can often be so worried about what we’re going to say next or how to respond to that last point that we forget to listen to what the other person is saying.
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