Do You Suffer From The 'Need To Please Disease'?

Do You Suffer From The 'Need To Please Disease'?

A recurring theme at women’s conferences is the narrative that “women just need to be confident.”

If confidence were a switch in our brains that we could flip on, this well-intentioned advice would be transformative. Since it’s not exactly a binary system that we can activate – confident vs unconfident – it’s worth considering why women’s professional confidence might be a little shakier than our male counterparts’. (Hint: it’s not just you.)


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Life After Accusing A Powerful Man Of Harassment

Life After Accusing A Powerful Man Of Harassment

Following #metoo, there's far more pressure on women to be vocal about their experiences of harassment. The repercussions for women who do come forward is a topic that's largely been missing from the conversation.

Three women share their stories of what life is like after making those accusations public.

Following #metoo, there's far more pressure on women to be vocal about their experiences of harassment. The repercussions for women who do come forward is a topic that's largely been missing from the conversation.

Three women share their stories of what life is like after making those accusations public.

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Why Success Is Not About Being A Superhero

Why Success Is Not About Being A Superhero

For 20 years, Jean Oelwang successfully climbed the corporate ladder and broke glass ceilings, but she says, “With each shattered ceiling, I felt more and more alone and less and less myself.”

Her life partner, Chris Waddell, is a world-champion mono-skier who set Paralympic history. As he achieved each new physical feat, though, he said there was a sense of isolation that kept him feeling separate and alone.

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What ‘Stranger Things’ And ‘SNL’ Can Teach Us About Sexual Harassment

What ‘Stranger Things’ And ‘SNL’ Can Teach Us About Sexual Harassment

On a recent episode of Saturday Night Live, Colin Jost captured my feelings surrounding sexual harassment rather perfectly, saying, “Well, it’s a good weekend to stay inside, since it’s 20 degrees out and everyone you’ve ever heard of is a sex monster.” 

There’s a not-so-small part of me that would love nothing more than to “stay inside” and ignore it all. Even as someone whose business focuses on gender dynamics in the workplace and who also happens to moonlight as a sex educator, the culture of sexual harassment often feels intractable and overwhelming. 

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Should You Change Your Appearance To Get Taken Seriously At Work?

Should You Change Your Appearance To Get Taken Seriously At Work?

In an effort to get taken seriously as a young female CEO, Eileen Carey dyed her blonde hair brown, switched to more androgynous clothing and ditched contacts for thick-frame glasses.

While Carey’s change in appearance was dramatic, aspects of her story echo the decisions of women across sectors and other demographics.

Research from Harvard Medical School shows that, based only on appearance, people evaluate your competence and trustworthiness in a quarter of a second. For women who face other biases surrounding their age, race, or gender presentation, this adds another level of complexity to achieving coveted “executive presence”.

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What Houston Can Teach Us About Being Resilient At Work In The Face Of Tragedy

What Houston Can Teach Us About Being Resilient At Work In The Face Of Tragedy

Twelve years ago today, my friend Julia dropped off a Winnie the Pooh coloring book, a 64-pack of Crayolas, and a note that coloring has been shown to relieve stress. Hurricane Katrina had just made landfall and meteorologists were talking about my beloved hometown becoming the lost city of Atlantis. I spent the next week in my Dallas apartment struggling to get in touch with loved ones, watching the news, crying and coloring.

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3 Ways People Judge Your Executive Presence When You're A Woman

3 Ways People Judge Your Executive Presence When You're A Woman

We know executive presence when we see it. It’s that feeling you get when a woman walks in poised and polished, with the presence of a leader. There’s a certain je ne sais quoi about how she carries herself, which of course, seems effortless.

We all want it, but how do we get it? Until there is a Harry Potter-style magic potion for executive presence, there’s Jennifer Lee, a director of training and development and executive presence expert.

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The Muse Founder Kathryn Minshew On How To Find A Meaningful Career

The Muse Founder Kathryn Minshew On How To Find A Meaningful Career

Photo credit: The Muse

As co-founder of the popular career website, The Muse, Kathryn Minshew is deeply immersed in the career advice space. While tips and tricks can be helpful, the thing she wishes we talked about more is how deeply personal careers are.

It’s tempting to believe “there are such things as good jobs and bad jobs, good companies and bad companies,” Minshew explains. Lists like ‘100 Best Places to Work’ oversimplify what it means to be a good employer. And they completely overlook the nuanced combination of qualities that make a company the right fit for you.

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Overcome A Negotiation Impasse With This One Question

Overcome A Negotiation Impasse With This One Question

You know those moments when you’re at a dead end in a conversation with your boss, partner or airline customer service rep? Whether it’s explicitly stated or not, your counterpart is saying, “There’s nothing more I can do,” or “This conversation is over,” but you’re not ready to throw in the towel.

I’ve hit many such roadblocks recently. Over the last week, I’ve been booked on a total of 16 flights trying to fly to and from two (2!) client events. While my travel karma is usually excellent, I found myself negotiating with many an airline employee due to weather delays, unrealistically tight connections, and a particularly embarrassing personal first – waking up 30 minutes after my early morning flight departed.

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Venture Capitalist Jillian Manus On 'The Pitch' And Why She Abhors 'Shark Tank'

Venture Capitalist Jillian Manus On 'The Pitch' And Why She Abhors 'Shark Tank'

Jillian Manus is something of a legend in the world of venture capitalists, and I can see why. Based on my time with her, she's exceedingly insightful, candid as hell, and downright hilarious.

Professionally, she's a managing partner at Structure Capital, a Silicon Valley early-stage venture capital firm, where she provides strategic support to founding teams, focusing on creating value in underutilized assets and excess capacity.

Photo curtesy of Gimlet Media

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Try This Mental Trick To Manage Impostor Syndrome

Try This Mental Trick To Manage Impostor Syndrome

Know that needling feeling at the back of your mind that you’re a fake, your success was good luck or an accident, and soon (maybe today!) everyone will discover your secret? Impostor syndrome is all too common among high-achieving women.

Actress Jodie Foster summed it up nicely, “When I won the Oscar, I thought it was a fluke. I thought everybody would find out, and they’d take it back. They’d come to my house, knocking on the door, ‘Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone else. That was going to Meryl Streep.’“

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