Robots are becoming part of the workforce faster than many industry experts predicted. This can have particularly unsettling implications for women and minorities.Read More
It was mid-afternoon when I got the email accepting my very first piece for publication. The email indicated they’d be paying me far more than I expected and asked me to make six fairly substantive changes to my piece…by the following morning.
I was so elated, I didn’t consider how long the edits would take or how full my afternoon already was. Instead, I responded enthusiastically, yes of course I will make all the changes right away!Read More
In planning a group trip to an exhibit that my friend curated, I sent her a draft email describing her as “the superstar curator who hand-selected each piece.”
Let's call this call this curator friend Cynthia. Cynthia wrote back, “Two other curators worked with me on this (and may join us!), so I can’t take full credit.” She asked that I instead reference her with the significantly less exciting descriptor, “one of the curators of this exhibition." She was understandably hesitant to get all the credit and wanted to make clear that there were other people involved with the exhibition. While accurate, the new version was far less descriptive and complimentary than what I’d suggested.Read More
We’re taught to prioritize salary negotiations, but often overlook negotiating aspects of our work that will have a greater impact day-to-day. While salary is important, after you reach a certain point in your income, another couple thousand dollars per year amounts to a pretty small increase on each paycheck.
I recently asked a group of clients and friends about the benefits and perks they valued most.Read More
In that moment when you finally get the job offer, it can be tempting to cheer, “Yessssss! When can I start?” before you’ve had a chance to take a breath. But no matter how much you’re jumping up and down or ready to launch the confetti, resist the urge to say yes to the offer right away.
There’s no better time to negotiate with an employer than before you’ve accepted the offer. But whether or not you decide to negotiate, hitting pause before you accept will help ensure you’re set up for success in this new position.Read More
There’s a moment in HBO's Big Little Lies that I can’t get out of my head.
In the third episode of the mini-series, Laura Dern’s character, Renata Klein, is talking with her husband about their daughter’s challenges at school. When her husband tries to make a joke to lighten the mood, she tells him, “Just let me be a scared mom.”Read More
I recently attended a figure drawing class as a form of professional development. I took it not because I aspire to draw naked ladies for a living (though that would be fun), but specifically because I'm not an artist.
Prior to signing up, I’d been grappling with the inner critic in my professional life. As I’ve seen with many of my female clients, too often I was hearing that critical voice in my head. It told me that, despite professional successes, I wasn’t good enough, that there were experts who knew more and that I needed to try harder. I knew from experience that hearing this voice on repeat was a form of perfectionism.Read More
“Any time you feel a pit in your stomach, pull out your phone and record the moment.” That’s the request Lisa Chow, co-host of the podcast StartUp, made to the founders of the company she followed in the show’s second season.
According to Chow, StartUp “Delves deeply into people’s feelings about the ups and downs of starting, running, and managing a business.” The result is exceedingly compelling. As a business owner myself, it’s also cathartic – I call the StartUp podcast the ultimate mentor and therapy for entrepreneurs.Read More
When Sasha hired me to work with her, she said she had never negotiated a salary and was woefully underpaid in her current position. She was in the midst of the interview process and, fortunately, they hadn’t yet discussed compensation.
Sasha knew how the salary history question can perpetuate the wage gap. She also recognized that if she disclosed her current salary, she’d be at a particularly large disadvantage. In addition to being underpaid in her current role, the job she was applying for was a significant increase in responsibility, in a much larger market and in a different industry.Read More
When the news came out that I was going to receive an award, a friend sent me the following text, “I’m simultaneously so proud and also seething with jealousy. Congrats!!” Her tongue in cheek comment gave voice to a sentiment I picked up on from several female friends.
This particularly sassy friend called it jealousy, but it didn’t feel negative or resentful. It was more like genuine happiness at my success, a curiosity about how I’d made it happen and a hope that they might be honored similarly one day as well.Read More
“How much were you making in your previous position?”
“What’s your salary history?”
If these questions are cringe-inducing, there’s good reason: asking about salary history perpetuates the wage gap in which women make less than men for doing the same work.Read More
When you get yet another request to work for free, it can be tempting to send a two-word email that says, “Hard pass.”
So while I love the quote from writer Anne Lamott that, “‘No’ is a complete sentence,” I also know that women can face sanctions when they’re perceived to be self-interested or unhelpful (read: not giving away their stuff for free). A more thoughtful response can help avoid triggering that gender bias.
Here are templates I use to make the process of saying 'no' less stressful:Read More
For New Orleans businesses, the running joke is that you might as well shut down for the week prior to Mardi Gras day. Your staff, clients, and customers are getting giddy about their costumes, sugar highs from king cake are the norm, and traffic is atrocious with parades rolling daily starting the Wednesday prior through Fat Tuesday. Needless to say, folks in New Orleans are a little distracted this time of year.Read More
I love airports. I love people watching, my luggage with the spinny wheels and making new friends in line. Flying is ironically grounding for me, helping me shift perspective and find a spaciousness I can find challenging in my day-to-day. Since college, I’ve gotten my best writing done on planes, so much so that I’ll save up writing projects for when I know I’ll be flying. (This piece included.)Read More
A man approached me at a party a few months ago, asking me to spend some time with him. Just a few days later, we spent a wonderful two hours together. I came home excited about where this relationship might go, telling friends and colleagues how elated I was about its potential. A few days later, I emailed him. No response. In the weeks that followed, I reached out by both phone and email several times. I still haven’t heard back.Read More
I’ve been feeling like a hypocrite. A lot of people have read my New Year’s goal setting article, in which I describe using an “eff yeah” list to celebrate your most meaningful or fulfilling moments in 2016 and using that list to build meaningful goals for 2017.
It can be a really empowering process, but this year I’ve been stuck on step two. I’ve used the eff yeah list strategy before, and it’s been an exceedingly powerful tool for me and for clients. But as I did it this year, it felt like I didn’t know what I wanted.Read More
PHOTO CREDIT TO CLAIRE LORENZO
Claire Wasserman is pissed about the wage gap, and she’s doing something about it. With sassy hashtags (#f*ckthewagegap) and 3,000 members, her company Ladies Get Paid helps women advocate to get the pay and recognition they deserve. Wasserman recently shared her experience launching the company and the role mental health support played in empowering her to take action.
After a particularly unpleasant work event that she describes as a glorified frat party, a friend of Wasserman’s introduced her to the concept of the wage gap and they discussed the various forms of inequality women grapple with on a daily basis. Frustration, Wasserman says, can be the greatest motivator for a business, and that was precisely what prompted her to launch Ladies Get PaidRead More
Millennials have a reputation for being lazy and entitled. Women who advocate for themselves get called b*tchy and difficult. Millennial women are not exactly set up for success when it comes to getting what they want out of their careers.
But by 2025 the majority of the workforce will be millennials. As young women strive to find professional fulfillment and companies attempt to attract and retain millennial talent, we need to find a middle ground.Read More